Tips for Fighting the Bridezilla Within

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Tips for Fighting the Bridezilla Within

To say that planning a wedding can be a major source of stress would be an understatement. There are so many details to attend to, and you want everything to be as you’ve dreamed. After all, your wedding day is the start of a major phase in your life and things should go down the way you want. Unfortunately, even the best-laid plans can experience hiccups and problems. The combined stress of wedding preparation and the desire to have a dream ceremony can bring out the worst in some people. Here are some tips to avoid becoming a “bridezilla.”

Understanding Bridezillas

It’s important to know the difference between having expectations and standards. Being a “bridezilla,” which is often a bride whose expectations and behavior seem so unreasonable to the point of being seen as monstrous. The word is a portmanteau of “bride” and “Godzilla,” a fictional monster. Although the term implies a bride, it’s possible for grooms as well as non-binary persons to exhibit this type of behavior. Given the right set of circumstances, anyone can be a bridezilla, even so-called polite and easygoing Canadians.

Prioritizing a Personal Perspective

Tying the knot is all about you and your partner. Keep in mind that although the day will matter to those who care about you, it won’t be quite as high a priority for others. Check your expectations. Your special day can’t matter as much to those invited to your wedding as it does to you. Maintaining this perspective can avoid drama, fights and other conflicts that may arise from unrealistic expectations. Because it’s all about you, don’t take on the stress of trying to live up to the opinions of others. 

Delegating Responsibilities and Tasks

Trying to do and be everything is a fast ticket to a tailspin, or worse, a meltdown. Delegating tasks to others is one way to help reduce your stress. Do you really need to control everything or attend to every detail? Let your partner shoulder some of the responsibility. A bestie or close sibling or cousin can also be put in charge of certain aspects. Investing in a wedding planner can lighten this load. This professional not only has the knowledge to plan your big day but also has access to resources and suppliers that can help you realize your must-haves and non-negotiables. 

Staying Grounded

Comparison is the thief of joy. When viewing celebrity weddings and other Instagram- and Pinterest-worthy ceremonial ideas, it’s easy to get caught up in trying to impress others with your nuptials. Practical, affordable and feasible choices can help lower your stress and that of everyone involved. A helicopter ride from your hotel to the wedding venue sounds great for a TV show, but is that realistic or reasonable for your big day? Don’t compare what you have to what others have done. Your marriage ceremony is a time to keep up with your spouse-to-be, not the Joneses.

Taking a Break

The pressure to get everything done within a timeframe can lead to your emotions running high. Sometimes you need to take a moment to catch your breath, reset and refocus. This goes hand in hand with delegating tasks. Keep in mind that as long as you and your partner make it to the wedding venue with an authorized officiant and the ones you love, you’re fine. Really, you are!

Marriage is an adventure. The joy of wedding planning is in anticipating the life ahead with the one you love. It’s critical that you have fun as you prepare to say “I do.” Your big day shouldn’t be something to dread. If you find yourself anxious instead of excited, it might be time to step back and rethink things. You don’t have to be a bridezilla or groomzilla to enjoy one of the best days of your life. 

Tips for Fighting the Bridezilla Within

To say that planning a wedding can be a major source of stress would be an understatement. There are so many details to attend to, and you want everything to be as you’ve dreamed. After all, your wedding day is the start of a major phase in your life and things should go down the way you want. Unfortunately, even the best-laid plans can experience hiccups and problems. The combined stress of wedding preparation and the desire to have a dream ceremony can bring out the worst in some people. Here are some tips to avoid becoming a “bridezilla.”

Understanding Bridezillas

It’s important to know the difference between having expectations and standards. Being a “bridezilla,” which is often a bride whose expectations and behavior seem so unreasonable to the point of being seen as monstrous. The word is a portmanteau of “bride” and “Godzilla,” a fictional monster. Although the term implies a bride, it’s possible for grooms as well as non-binary persons to exhibit this type of behavior. Given the right set of circumstances, anyone can be a bridezilla, even so-called polite and easygoing Canadians.

Prioritizing a Personal Perspective

Tying the knot is all about you and your partner. Keep in mind that although the day will matter to those who care about you, it won’t be quite as high a priority for others. Check your expectations. Your special day can’t matter as much to those invited to your wedding as it does to you. Maintaining this perspective can avoid drama, fights and other conflicts that may arise from unrealistic expectations. Because it’s all about you, don’t take on the stress of trying to live up to the opinions of others. 

Delegating Responsibilities and Tasks

Trying to do and be everything is a fast ticket to a tailspin, or worse, a meltdown. Delegating tasks to others is one way to help reduce your stress. Do you really need to control everything or attend to every detail? Let your partner shoulder some of the responsibility. A bestie or close sibling or cousin can also be put in charge of certain aspects. Investing in a wedding planner can lighten this load. This professional not only has the knowledge to plan your big day but also has access to resources and suppliers that can help you realize your must-haves and non-negotiables. 

Staying Grounded

Comparison is the thief of joy. When viewing celebrity weddings and other Instagram- and Pinterest-worthy ceremonial ideas, it’s easy to get caught up in trying to impress others with your nuptials. Practical, affordable and feasible choices can help lower your stress and that of everyone involved. A helicopter ride from your hotel to the wedding venue sounds great for a TV show, but is that realistic or reasonable for your big day? Don’t compare what you have to what others have done. Your marriage ceremony is a time to keep up with your spouse-to-be, not the Joneses.

Taking a Break

The pressure to get everything done within a timeframe can lead to your emotions running high. Sometimes you need to take a moment to catch your breath, reset and refocus. This goes hand in hand with delegating tasks. Keep in mind that as long as you and your partner make it to the wedding venue with an authorized officiant and the ones you love, you’re fine. Really, you are!

Marriage is an adventure. The joy of wedding planning is in anticipating the life ahead with the one you love. It’s critical that you have fun as you prepare to say “I do.” Your big day shouldn’t be something to dread. If you find yourself anxious instead of excited, it might be time to step back and rethink things. You don’t have to be a bridezilla or groomzilla to enjoy one of the best days of your life. 

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