Wedding trends constantly change to meet the needs of modern couples. Nontraditional weddings are on trend for those people who don’t want to walk down the aisle in a white gown with matching bridesmaids. Here are some ideas to get you started on a nontraditional wedding that is more to your specifications.
Mix Up The Order of the Day
One of the latest wedding trends is to party before the ceremony. The reception comes first. At the end of the evening, the couple takes their vows before the guests leave. Couples are also taking a few moments at the start of the day to say their vows together in private before the celebrations begin. It’s kind of a chance to really enjoy the day as it should be instead of as a whirlwind of activity. There’s no reason to avoid each other until the ceremony unless you really want to be traditional.
Create Your Own Wedding Playlist
Who says you need a DJ to play the music at the reception? Make your own playlist to pipe in through the speakers at the reception hall. Rent a karaoke machine. Hire a standup comedian instead of playing any music. Play your favorite movies. Have card or board games on the reception tables to entertain guests.
Go Nontraditional And Skip the Cake Smash
Smashing cake in each other’s faces isn’t for everyone, especially when you’re wearing beautiful and expensive wedding attire. If you’re looking for an alternative to cake, whether you want to smash it or not, switch it up by serving doughnuts, cupcakes, brownies or even pies. Think about desserts that your guests will love and enjoy instead of formal wedding cake. If sweets aren’t your thing, go with a nice cheese board for dessert. Serve up a plate of pretzels or offer a smoothie bar with lots of fruit that will cleanse everyone’s palate.
Go With a Nontraditional Venue
Host your wedding party at a winery or a restaurant instead of the traditional wedding venue. Think about unexpected locations, a bowling alley, the game store, City Hall in the town next door or a private home that has a beautiful garden. Small weddings can save you money and give you the opportunity to really enjoy your friends and family who came to support you. If you really want to surprise your guests, don’t tell anyone why you’re gathering until you are together. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to find a venue that reflects you both and reduces your stress about the ceremony.
Plant a Tree
Forgo the candle ceremony for another option, such as planting a tree or holding a sand ceremony. Choose a tree that can be planted in a pot until you get settled as a couple. Once you buy your first home, you can set it in the yard as a reminder of the day you came together. In a sand ceremony, each of you pours colored sand into a vase together, symbolic of the blending of your two lives. Alternatively, create a time capsule of your wedding day. Ask guests to write well wishes that you can read in 10 or 20 years. Choose a few elements that you each can put in the box to be locked away until that milestone anniversary.
Make Your Wedding About You
It’s okay to kick the rule book out for your wedding. If you’re not into Pinterest boards and managing every detail, do what makes you happy. When you do the unexpected, your wedding will be more memorable. Get creative with your wedding. Include some fun and humor. Your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime event that should reflect you both.
Once you and your significant other have agreed to tie the knot, you’re on a countdown to the big day. Your thoughts turn to all the details you need to figure out for your marriage ceremony. One of the big decisions to make is deciding who will be in the wedding party. As with couples all over the world, Canadian couples often look to close friends and family members to be bridesmaids, groomsmen, and other participants.
Asking a bestie or a sibling to be a maid of honor or best man is a no-brainer. You may be inspired to find creative ways to ask those closest to you to commit to being in the wedding party. The closest ones probably expect to be asked, but what about other people who are expecting to be asked to participate? How do you break the news to them? Consider the following suggestions.
Don’t Delay
If you’re asking someone to be in your wedding party, it’s important to do it as early as possible. Similarly, if you’re telling someone they won’t be in that number, it’s important to avoid delaying. Breaking the news gets harder to do the longer you wait. That person may be making special arrangements to be a groomsman or bridesmaid. Moreover, you don’t want them to find out secondhand from others.
Tell Them in Person
When it comes to potentially difficult conversations, it’s best to have a face-to-face meeting. Sending an email or text message is incredibly rude and may unintentionally suggest you don’t value your relationship with the person. If an in-person meeting is impossible because of geography, call them or set up a virtual meeting.
Be Direct and Up-Front
When you do meet with your friend or family member, honesty and directness are key. Don’t beat around the bush. Honor them by getting straight to the point. Hemming and hawing about it may sound like you’re being dishonest or hiding something from them. If you have neutral or positive reasons for your choice, be honest. If there are negative reasons for not including them, you can still be honest, but be intentional about your delivery.
Validate Their Feelings
There’s always the possibility your loved one won’t react well to the news. Not being a part of the wedding party can be very disappointing and feel like rejection. Let them vent. Acknowledge their feelings and remind them of how much you value your relationship. Reassure them their presence at the wedding is important to you and your spouse-to-be. At the very least, make space for them to be disappointed and listen.
Find Other Ways To Include Them
It’s common for friends to be asked to serve as ushers when you’ve reached the limit on groomsmen or bridesmaids. Does your loved one have a special talent, such as singing or playing an instrument? Ask them to do a selection or two in the ceremony. Perhaps that person has the gift of gab and would make a great emcee for the reception. You can also give them bridesmaid or groomsman-type duties like planning a stag and doe party or wedding shower. There are many ways for loved ones to be involved.
Expect the Best and Prepare for the Worst
Although this won’t be the easiest conversation to have, be optimistic. Your loved one may be very understanding of the choice you’ve made. They’ll appreciate your openness and warmth. If they respond with anger and hostility, you may be forced to take an honest look at your relationship.
Your nuptials should be a joyous occasion you and your partner look forward to. Although preparing for the big day should be fun, you may have to explain to friends and family they won’t be in your wedding party. Your decision shouldn’t end a relationship, so keep these suggestions in mind.
After you’ve made the decision to get engaged, there are a bunch of steps you will need to take before you get married. Some of the earliest choices couples make are when and how to make the announcement. A more popular trend has been to schedule an engagement shoot. Couples can take a selection of photos that can be used as the image on a card or social media post. Before you book your photographer, take a look at these tips on what to expect and how to plan for the best possible experience.
Comfort Should Take Precedence
Typically, engagement photos are taken outdoors. There’s something about the bright, airy feeling created by natural lighting that works ideally for a romantic gesture like an engagement announcement. While being outside does offer a ton of options for captivating and dynamic shots, it also means that you will be dealing with all of the irritations of the outdoors. To enjoy your day, a top priority should be your comfort.
Engagement In Style
It goes without saying you want to look your best for your photos. However, putting on an outfit that goes against the seasonal temperature, can easily become ruined by dirt is an easy way to turn a fun experience into a burden. There’s no need to suffer for this shoot, so be sure to find a way to blend style and comfort.
Hire Experts for Hair and Makeup
Bringing a professional photographer on board is an easy decision for your shoot. To make the process even smoother, consider going a step farther and hiring experts for hair and makeup. When you’ve got people with experience handling your look, there are fewer items on your to-do list to stress over before the day arrives. Plus, this can be a fun way to test out options for your wedding hair and makeup needs. If you love the abilities of the people you use, then you can book them right away.
Have Fun With the Experience
There are going to be plenty of moments where you feel overwhelmed as you plan the details of your big day. The engagement shoot, on the other hand, is your chance to just relax and have some fun. There’s no pressure, only a chance to capture exactly how happy you are about this milestone moment. Many couples take things to the next level by turning the shoot into an entire day’s experience. Go out for breakfast together, take care of the shoot, then finish the night with a concert, fancy dinner, or drinks at a favorite bar.
Keep the Poses Simple
Engagement photos are formulaic for a reason. There’s no need to think too far outside of the box with this task, as it really is mainly to serve as a way of informing family and friends about the decision. This means that you’ll have an easier time by keeping your poses simple. If you ever feel stuck on what to do in a shot and your photographer isn’t doing the best job at instructing you, a quick kiss can make for the perfect content. Nothing creates a romantic vibe like a smooch!
Make a Engagement Checklist
Though there won’t be as many details to keep in mind as there will be for your wedding, a checklist can be a huge help when you’re planning out your photoshoot. From details about the shooting location to the time you need to meet your makeup team, having a list of all the things that need to be accomplished will make the entire experience less stressful.
An engagement shoot is a wonderful way to get excited about your choice to tie the knot. As long as you give yourself a little time to prep in advance, you’ll be able to enjoy every minute of this fun task.
Many people envision their wedding day as something magical with clear ideas of what the day will entail, including those who will support them at the altar. Members of the wedding party assume responsibility for helping a couple prepare for their nuptials. They should understand they’ll be helping you kick off this new phase in life. You’ll be asking a lot of these people, so remember these “facts” about those in your wedding party.
The Wedding Party is Not Your Wallet or Purse
It’s fairly common for bridesmaids and groomsmen to be responsible for paying for their attire, whether they’re renting or buying. A best man or maid of honor may have additional duties such as planning a stag and doe party or other prenuptial festivities. Be thoughtful about what the people in your wedding party are spending to participate. Your marriage ceremony shouldn’t be a financial burden to you and your future spouse. It definitely shouldn’t be one to those in your wedding party!
They’re Not Your Servant or Secretary
Your nearest and dearest friends and family members often have good ideas and wisdom, making them excellent resources when planning nuptials. Don’t take advantage of their willingness to help. It’s important to be reasonable when expecting others to accommodate your schedule. They have lives of their own. Inviting them to help you find an outfit or sample cakes is cool. Expecting them to be at your beck and call is not.
They’re Not Mind Readers
You might have a sibling or best friend that knows you really well. While they might have a strong sense of your likes and dislikes, you shouldn’t assume they can read your mind. Clear and constant communication is important when preparing for a marriage ceremony. If you want your bridesmaids or groomsmen to do or not do certain things, say so.
They’re Not Your Dolls
Many Canadian couples like the idea of a themed marriage ceremony and reception. A themed event may call for a particular look for your wedding party, especially when it comes to hair, makeup, and apparel. Remember your loved ones aren’t dolls where you can dramatically change their appearance based on your whims. Asking someone to wear a long-sleeved top to cover up tattoos is one thing. Expecting someone to change their hair color is another. It’s unreasonable to expect others to alter the way they look to please you.
They’re Not Your Subjects
Your nuptials are about you and your spouse. While your groomsmen or bridesmaids want you to be happy, you can’t force them to do things they don’t want to do. For example, if you have a loved one that doesn’t drink, don’t expect them to enjoy a glass of champagne just because it’s time to toast. While the day is one of the most important ones in your life, that doesn’t give you the right to bark orders to those in your wedding party. Respect your bridesmaids and groomsmen.
They’re Not Your Fixers
Despite the best-laid plans, something can go wrong, especially when you’re tying the knot. If a photographer fails to show up, don’t expect the people in your wedding party to “save the day” with a smartphone camera or something equally ridiculous. Mistakes are unfortunate, but you can’t expect your circle to fix everything that doesn’t go according to plan.
Having people who love you enough to be in your wedding party is a blessing. Not everyone has that kind of support, so be grateful for those who can handle reasonable duties as a bridesmaid or a groomsman. Making irrational or unrealistic demands of those around you can turn what should be a dream into a nightmare for loved ones.
Guests who don’t RSVP are the bane of hosts of all kinds of parties, not just wedding receptions. Some experts estimate that up to 20% of wedding guests will RSVP no, while another 60% will RSVP yes. That leaves 20% who won’t respond at all. The reason a guest doesn’t respond isn’t important. Dealing with those non-responders is. Expect to have to call some people on your guest list to find out whether they’re attending or not. Have a plan to minimize your frustration.
Include a Grace Period
Your caterer needs a head count by a certain date. Move your RSVP deadline up about two weeks from that day. This gives you some time to track down those guests who didn’t RSVP. Put some time in your own schedule to handle the situation. You know you’re going to need to deal with non-responsive guests. Planning for it can give you breathing room.
Send Contact Reminders
About a week before the RSVP deadline, send out a reminder by email or text. This gives those folks with good intentions a chance to respond. You should get a few more responses before the deadline. It’s easy to lose track of time and forget to RSVP. Make it as easy as possible to RSVP, either through your wedding website or by responding to the reminder.
Take a Breath
As the deadline gets closer, it’s easy to feel frustrated. Weddings are serious business. Before you start pestering non-responsive guests, shake off those feelings of irritation. Yes, you’re busy and shouldn’t have to track down those guests to get the answers you need. However, your wedding day doesn’t need to be clouded by resentment by you or your guests. Your guests may have busy lives that don’t revolve around your wedding. You don’t know what they’re dealing with. Take a breath and relax.
Make Contact
You and your partner know your guests who haven’t responded. Decide how to make contact with each person on the list. Get help from your wedding party if your list is long. Start by connecting with those who have not responded. If your previous text or email went unanswered, find another way to reach out. Leave a voicemail or meet in person. This is not the time to use a group email or text. Reach out to each guest individually. Emphasize that you’re trying to get a head count for the venue or caterer.
Be Gracious
Instead of yelling at your guests who haven’t responded, take another approach. Guests who don’t respond may be dealing with more than you realize or are embarrassed for not sending in their RSVP. Start by asking if they received your invitation. If they haven’t received it, they don’t even know about the deadline. You want to be able to deal with that situation without making them feel bad.
If they have received the invitation, gently remind them of the RSVP deadline and ask about their intentions. If someone is hesitant, give them a way to bow out. There’s no need to make them feel any worse. You just need a response.
If you have to leave a voicemail, give them another 48 hours to respond. You can say that if you don’t hear from them, you’ll assume they aren’t coming. If you simply can’t get a hold of someone, it’s a pretty good assumption that they won’t attend. Should they respond later, you may just have to be firm in telling them that you won’t have food for them. Maybe they can still attend, depending on the headcount for the venue. Be prepared to handle those situations on an individual basis. Don’t stress too much over non-responsive guests.
For Canadian couples who have decided to tie the knot, the marriage ceremony is one of the most important life events. It requires careful consideration, planning, and preparation, from the day of engagement all the way to the end of the reception. Many couples also anticipate kicking off this new phase of life with a honeymoon. Similar to your wedding, your honeymoon also requires careful planning. You want to start your marriage off on a high note. Here are six things you should not do on your special getaway.
1. Going Without a Plan
Whether you envision lying on a beach somewhere in the sun or taking in the bright lights of a destination city, you need to have a plan. What do you hope to accomplish on your honeymoon? This vacation is a celebration of your union, so it’s important to schedule memorable and romantic activities to make the trip special. Planning your itinerary to the letter is going too far in the other direction, but it’s important to make time for the essential things.
2. Not Having a Budget
One of the worst experiences is going on a trip and learning that you don’t have enough money to do the things you want to do. Discovering you’ve under-budgeted for your honeymoon is quite the drag. Instead of enjoying the time together, you’ll be preoccupied with how much things cost. You shouldn’t blow your finances on a single vacation, so it’s important to choose an experience that’s appropriate for your planned budget. If you can’t afford to splurge now, enjoy a modest vacation and save your funds for a future anniversary.
3. Ignoring Rules, Regulations, and Advisories
Can you imagine arriving at a coastal destination in the middle of a hurricane? It’s unwise to book a trip without researching information about the place. There could be civil unrest that makes the desired destination an unsafe place to travel. Some countries require visitors to get certain vaccines or meet other requirements before traveling. Ignorance is not bliss when it comes to planning a vacation. Nothing ruins a honeymoon like being unable to travel.
4. OverpackingOn A Honeymoon
The last thing you or your spouse will want to do is struggle with too much luggage or bags that are stuffed with things you don’t need. Think carefully about your destination. Will you really need an evening outfit every night? Maybe you can do laundry at the resort or vacation home you’ll be staying at. What if you want to bring back souvenirs? There are weight restrictions for luggage on most airlines. Limit your bags to the essentials. Your body will appreciate it.
5. Oversharing Your Honeymoon on Social Media
Some things have to be seen (and shared) to be believed. That breathtaking sunset or main course at a Michelin star restaurant may be Instagram-worthy, but don’t spend all your time sharing every minute of your trip. Remember to be in the moment with your new spouse. You don’t want to miss what’s happening in front of you and between you because you’re posting updates to friends and followers.
6. Not Respecting the Locals and Their Culture
Wherever you go, remember to respect the locals and their customs. Even in locations that thrive on tourism, be mindful of how your actions can inadvertently affect others. What might be acceptable at home in Canada may not be so in other countries. Know before you go.
Your wedding will be one of life’s most important events. A honeymoon that’s every bit as magical as your marriage ceremony is the perfect start to life with the one you love. Keep these tips in mind as you make your plans.
As do many other countries, Canada has its fair share of cultural traditions when it comes to various aspects of living. Weddings are no exception in the Great White North. Canadian wedding traditions pull from the country’s English and French roots, resulting in fun, quirky ideas for your nuptials. From pre-ceremony hijinks to the marriage service and reception, let’s explore these traditions that are unique to Canada. You may be inspired to incorporate some of these into your own celebration.
Before the Wedding
When a couple decides to get married, the events often start before the special day. From engagement parties to bridal showers, it’s very common for the festivities to be held well in advance. Check out the following pre-ceremony Canadian customs:
Trousseau Tea: This older tradition is named for a term that refers to either a dowry, a bride’s outfit or a chest used to collect clothing for young single women in anticipation of marriage. The mother of the bride hosts a party or tea for casual acquaintances and friends who might not be otherwise invited to the marriage ceremony. The bride’s trousseau was put on display, while pastries, confections and other sweet treats were served. This very old practice is mostly obsolete but may be a great idea for the couple with a lot of friends.
Pre-Wedding Fundraiser for the Couple: This pre-celebration social is an opportunity for close friends and family to raise money to support an engaged couple. Names for this event vary across Canada, but some common terms include stag and doe, buck and doe, shag or wedding social. Invitations to this party are often extended to friends who might not be invited to the main event. Guests purchase entry tickets and pay small amounts of money to play games. Proceeds are usually donated to the couple to either pay for the wedding, honeymoon or other costs associated with starting life together.
On the Day Of Wedding
Most Canadian ceremonies will feature a processional involving the couple and members of the bridal party, but consider a procession of the couple and others to the wedding venue. A distinctively Quebecois tradition involves the groom and his loved ones meeting the bride at her residence. The couple then proceeds to the venue with the bride’s parents in a motorcade, wherein some cars are decorated for the wedding. On the way to the church, participants will honk their horns and tell passersby about the nuptials. These bystanders will shout good wishes in response. At the end of the parade, everyone enters the church or venue together.
At the “Afterparty”
Another popular French-Canadian custom takes place at the reception. Unmarried siblings of the bride and groom will perform a silly dance to a special song while wearing loud, colorful and sometimes ugly socks. Reception attendees respond by tossing money to be collected and donated to the newly married couple as a collective gift for starting their life together. Would-be dancers are encouraged to be as silly as possible. In parts of Manitoba, dancing trios perform a Ukrainian dance called the “butterfly” at the reception.
In lieu of presents, some receptions request that guests bring money to donate to the newlyweds. A succinct, discreet way of doing this is by stating “presentation only” on the wedding invitation. While long receptions aren’t strictly Canadian, many celebrations extend well into the early morning of the next day, long after the wedded couple has left the building.
Weddings are a great time to incorporate many customs and cultural elements. For engaged partners in Canada, there are old and current traditions that are worth considering for incorporation into the festivities. From pre- to post-wedding events, ponder these Canadian customs for a fun and memorable way to kick off this new phase of life.
Wedding photos last a lifetime, so most brides and grooms spend a lot of time choosing the right photographer, which is half the battle to make sure you capture your special day on film. The other part is how you look. Not everyone is comfortable in front of the camera, even though many people have grown up in the age of selfies. Here are some tips for getting good wedding photos.
Get Comfortable With Your Photographer
An engagement shoot can help you get to know your wedding photographer and be more comfortable in front of the camera. When you go back through the photos to choose which ones to use, look with a critical eye to see what you didn’t like and which pictures you thought turned out well. Maybe even talk to the photographer about what cues worked better for you and your significant other. Just don’t stop there.
Practice in Front of the Camera
One afternoon with the photographer isn’t going to be enough to get yourself ready for the wedding day photography. Getting the perfect shot doesn’t happen naturally, so you may want to practice with your future spouse and friends and family. Get your wedding party to take candid photos while you’re planning and shopping for the wedding. This can help you become accustomed to the camera so you can act more spontaneously. As you look through these photos, you can learn which side is your best side. Don’t get too caught up in certain poses. You want your wedding photos to be authentic and real.
Angle Your Body
Standing up straight and staring at the camera can make you look rigid and flat. Most experts recommend turning your body 45 degrees to your partner. This creates a flattering angle that is more intimate than just standing next to each other. Your full body isn’t on display, which can help minimize any discomfort in showing your full width.
Check Your Posture
Standing up straight with your shoulders back and chest forward isn’t always a natural position, but it can give you much more confidence when you have good posture. Good posture flatters your frame, so you immediately look much better in photos. Learn to take a deep breath before the photo and release it to relax your body so you don’t look too stiff. Bending one knee while posing is another trick to make you look more relaxed and less stiff in photos.
Learn Where To Put Your Arms
Most people hold their arms very close to their torso in photos. Lifting your arms away from your body can give you a better look in photos. Your shoulders won’t seem as broad when you do this. It can also make your arms appear smaller. Watch how your elbows point. When they point outwards, it can make photos seem stiff. Practice moving your arms while taking photos to have more confidence in what you’re doing.
Ask Your Wedding Party To Practice With You
The bride and groom aren’t the only ones in the wedding photos. If your parents don’t like taking pictures, you’ve got time to help them feel more confident in the photos by working with them. Your flower girl and ring bearer may also need some practice listening to the photographer and learning to keep their eyes open during photos. These practice photos can be memories of their own as you take pictures of your everyday routine leading up to the wedding.
Relax and let your photographer capture the special moments that occur naturally without feeling awkward in front of the camera, and get the wedding photos you’ll be delighted to put on display for years to come.
When a close friend or family member decides to get married, there’s a good chance you may be asked to be in their wedding as a bridesmaid or a groomsman. If it’s a best friend or a close sibling getting hitched, you may be asked to stand next to them as a maid of honor or a best man. In either situation, this is an important responsibility. Members of a bridal or wedding party are expected to contribute time, treasure and talents to the nuptials of a happy couple, and there are some things you should know before committing.
Opting Out Of A Wedding
Before going further, you should understand that being in a wedding party will likely put significant demands on your time and funds, especially as the big day rolls around. It’s easy to get caught up in the moment and say yes. However, you should know that you can always say no, and you should do so if you have any doubts about being able to fulfill the role, especially as a maid of honor or best man. If you need time to consider and more details about what is expected of you, it’s best to say something now and not later.
Planning Events
As a bridesmaid or groomsman, you’re expected to be part of a support system for the couple to be wed. This can mean everything from helping to plan events such as a bachelor or bachelorette party to coordinating actual details of the big day. As a part of the bridal party, you’re there to attend to the couple’s needs, which can include helping them stay calm and collected. One classic Canadian event that you may be expected to help organize and plan is a stag and doe party, which serves as a fundraiser to pay for costs associated with the new couple’s life together, including expenses from the ceremony and honeymoon.
Spending Money
Members of a wedding party are often expected to contribute personal funds to help cover various costs. Perhaps the most common expenses arise from wedding fashions. Bridesmaids are often expected to pay for their dresses according to the bride’s preferences. Similarly, groomsmen are usually responsible for renting a tuxedo or purchasing clothes and accessories for the big day. There are a number of expenses that you should take into account if you commit to participating in the ceremony:
Attire, including accessories and shoes
Gifts for the couple at various events
Costs for bachelor/bachelorette events, stag and doe parties, engagement gatherings, bridal showers, etc.
Travel expenses or fees for a destination or remote celebration
You shouldn’t go into debt or experience financial strain from being in the wedding party, so it’s important to ask questions up front before committing.
Helping the Couple Look Their Best
A bride or a groom will look to members of the bridal party to help them get suited and booted for the ceremony. This may include something as simple as helping someone fasten buttons or zippers that are hard to reach or helping tie a bow tie. Get familiar with that YouTube tutorial as soon as possible! Do you know your way around a makeup palette or a set of clippers? The happy couple may have need of special skills that you possess when it comes to putting the finishing touches on their appearance. Again, expectations and requests should be made known well in advance.
Many people consider it an honor to be asked to serve in a wedding, especially as a member of the bridal party. Recognize that you have an important role to fulfill, and if you’re not prepared to make the commitment required, say something right away. The last thing you want to do is leave a loved one hanging and add to the stress of the special day.
Canada has many beautiful locations for a wedding, from historic churches to national parks. If you’re looking for a place to celebrate your wedding while remembering Canada’s heritage, here are a few places you may want to look into.
Métis Crossing As a Wedding Site
The Métis Crossing Cultural Centre in Alberta loves to celebrate family and love. There’s no requirement to be Métis. You can hold your wedding and stay at the lodge, which overlooks the North Saskatchewan River. Guests can enjoy some of the cultural experiences to better understand the Métis. The Cultural Gathering Centre has rustic beams and natural light, so it needs minimal decorations.
Quaaout Lodge & Spa at Talking Rock Golf Resort
The Quaaout Lodge is located in Chase, British Columbia. It sits beside Little Shuswap Lake, so you can have a lakeside wedding. Your guests will enjoy the hospitality of the Little Shuswap Lake Band, which owns the lodge. The resort is open all year long, with appropriate activities for all seasons. The environment is kept in pristine condition, and it’s considered a photographer’s delight. Your wedding pictures will be amazing.
Cape Breton Highlands National Park As a Wedding Site
This national park in Nova Scotia offers two different backdrops, the sea and the mountains. You’ll need a Nova Scotia marriage license, but the scenery will make up for any bureaucratic inconvenience. The park features several locations that are suitable for ceremonies. Trout Brook has a small picnic shelter and a wood stove. It’s the perfect setting for an intimate wedding. Have your wedding party hike up the Skyline Trail to a cliff that overlooks the Gulf of St. Lawrence. You may even have some wildlife join you as you say your vows.
Batoche National Historic Wedding Site
Located in Saskatchewan, Batoche is about an hour north of Saskatoon. The site is only open from May to October for visitors, but it’s a lovely location with heritage buildings that are the perfect place for a simple wedding in a romantic place surrounded by history and nature. Guests can enjoy the museum before the wedding to learn more about the Métis and the First Nations.
Fort Malden National Historic Site
Get a glimpse into what life was like in the 19th century at this historical site along the banks of the Detroit River in Ontario. Visitor services are offered May to October. The site welcomes weddings and has many facilities that can be used to host an unforgettable wedding. Your guests will have plenty of places to explore while visiting the area. Amherstburg is a great town with wineries, restaurants and entertainment to keep everyone from getting bored.
Manoir-Papineau National Historic Site
Louis-Joseph Papineau was a historical figure who failed in his rebellion but ultimately led Canada to a responsible government. This beautiful manor house is one of the sites that remembers his legacy. It features many rooms and outbuildings suitable for weddings. The gardens and lawns are lovely places for pictures. Papineau was one of the original Francophone patriots.
The Forks National Historic Site
This site is a National Historic Site of Canada because it has been witness to many events in Canada’s history. Its geographical location at the juncture of the Red and Assiniboine Rivers make it a beautiful location to host a wedding. The amphitheatre can hold up to 120 chairs, but there are other spaces in the nine-acre park.
These locations bring history and nature to your wedding, making it a special celebration for you and your guests. Make sure to check with the facility’s management about wedding guidelines. Unfortunately, Parks Canada, which runs many of these venues, does not allow confetti or rose petals to be thrown at the ceremony. You may have to give up some of your traditions to get heritage.
Wedding trends constantly change to meet the needs of modern couples. Nontraditional weddings are on trend for those people who don’t want to walk down the aisle in a white gown with matching bridesmaids. Here are some ideas to get you started on a nontraditional wedding that is more to your specifications.
Mix Up The Order of the Day
One of the latest wedding trends is to party before the ceremony. The reception comes first. At the end of the evening, the couple takes their vows before the guests leave. Couples are also taking a few moments at the start of the day to say their vows together in private before the celebrations begin. It’s kind of a chance to really enjoy the day as it should be instead of as a whirlwind of activity. There’s no reason to avoid each other until the ceremony unless you really want to be traditional.
Create Your Own Wedding Playlist
Who says you need a DJ to play the music at the reception? Make your own playlist to pipe in through the speakers at the reception hall. Rent a karaoke machine. Hire a standup comedian instead of playing any music. Play your favorite movies. Have card or board games on the reception tables to entertain guests.
Go Nontraditional And Skip the Cake Smash
Smashing cake in each other’s faces isn’t for everyone, especially when you’re wearing beautiful and expensive wedding attire. If you’re looking for an alternative to cake, whether you want to smash it or not, switch it up by serving doughnuts, cupcakes, brownies or even pies. Think about desserts that your guests will love and enjoy instead of formal wedding cake. If sweets aren’t your thing, go with a nice cheese board for dessert. Serve up a plate of pretzels or offer a smoothie bar with lots of fruit that will cleanse everyone’s palate.
Go With a Nontraditional Venue
Host your wedding party at a winery or a restaurant instead of the traditional wedding venue. Think about unexpected locations, a bowling alley, the game store, City Hall in the town next door or a private home that has a beautiful garden. Small weddings can save you money and give you the opportunity to really enjoy your friends and family who came to support you. If you really want to surprise your guests, don’t tell anyone why you’re gathering until you are together. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to find a venue that reflects you both and reduces your stress about the ceremony.
Plant a Tree
Forgo the candle ceremony for another option, such as planting a tree or holding a sand ceremony. Choose a tree that can be planted in a pot until you get settled as a couple. Once you buy your first home, you can set it in the yard as a reminder of the day you came together. In a sand ceremony, each of you pours colored sand into a vase together, symbolic of the blending of your two lives. Alternatively, create a time capsule of your wedding day. Ask guests to write well wishes that you can read in 10 or 20 years. Choose a few elements that you each can put in the box to be locked away until that milestone anniversary.
Make Your Wedding About You
It’s okay to kick the rule book out for your wedding. If you’re not into Pinterest boards and managing every detail, do what makes you happy. When you do the unexpected, your wedding will be more memorable. Get creative with your wedding. Include some fun and humor. Your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime event that should reflect you both.
Once you and your significant other have agreed to tie the knot, you’re on a countdown to the big day. Your thoughts turn to all the details you need to figure out for your marriage ceremony. One of the big decisions to make is deciding who will be in the wedding party. As with couples all over the world, Canadian couples often look to close friends and family members to be bridesmaids, groomsmen, and other participants.
Asking a bestie or a sibling to be a maid of honor or best man is a no-brainer. You may be inspired to find creative ways to ask those closest to you to commit to being in the wedding party. The closest ones probably expect to be asked, but what about other people who are expecting to be asked to participate? How do you break the news to them? Consider the following suggestions.
Don’t Delay
If you’re asking someone to be in your wedding party, it’s important to do it as early as possible. Similarly, if you’re telling someone they won’t be in that number, it’s important to avoid delaying. Breaking the news gets harder to do the longer you wait. That person may be making special arrangements to be a groomsman or bridesmaid. Moreover, you don’t want them to find out secondhand from others.
Tell Them in Person
When it comes to potentially difficult conversations, it’s best to have a face-to-face meeting. Sending an email or text message is incredibly rude and may unintentionally suggest you don’t value your relationship with the person. If an in-person meeting is impossible because of geography, call them or set up a virtual meeting.
Be Direct and Up-Front
When you do meet with your friend or family member, honesty and directness are key. Don’t beat around the bush. Honor them by getting straight to the point. Hemming and hawing about it may sound like you’re being dishonest or hiding something from them. If you have neutral or positive reasons for your choice, be honest. If there are negative reasons for not including them, you can still be honest, but be intentional about your delivery.
Validate Their Feelings
There’s always the possibility your loved one won’t react well to the news. Not being a part of the wedding party can be very disappointing and feel like rejection. Let them vent. Acknowledge their feelings and remind them of how much you value your relationship. Reassure them their presence at the wedding is important to you and your spouse-to-be. At the very least, make space for them to be disappointed and listen.
Find Other Ways To Include Them
It’s common for friends to be asked to serve as ushers when you’ve reached the limit on groomsmen or bridesmaids. Does your loved one have a special talent, such as singing or playing an instrument? Ask them to do a selection or two in the ceremony. Perhaps that person has the gift of gab and would make a great emcee for the reception. You can also give them bridesmaid or groomsman-type duties like planning a stag and doe party or wedding shower. There are many ways for loved ones to be involved.
Expect the Best and Prepare for the Worst
Although this won’t be the easiest conversation to have, be optimistic. Your loved one may be very understanding of the choice you’ve made. They’ll appreciate your openness and warmth. If they respond with anger and hostility, you may be forced to take an honest look at your relationship.
Your nuptials should be a joyous occasion you and your partner look forward to. Although preparing for the big day should be fun, you may have to explain to friends and family they won’t be in your wedding party. Your decision shouldn’t end a relationship, so keep these suggestions in mind.
After you’ve made the decision to get engaged, there are a bunch of steps you will need to take before you get married. Some of the earliest choices couples make are when and how to make the announcement. A more popular trend has been to schedule an engagement shoot. Couples can take a selection of photos that can be used as the image on a card or social media post. Before you book your photographer, take a look at these tips on what to expect and how to plan for the best possible experience.
Comfort Should Take Precedence
Typically, engagement photos are taken outdoors. There’s something about the bright, airy feeling created by natural lighting that works ideally for a romantic gesture like an engagement announcement. While being outside does offer a ton of options for captivating and dynamic shots, it also means that you will be dealing with all of the irritations of the outdoors. To enjoy your day, a top priority should be your comfort.
Engagement In Style
It goes without saying you want to look your best for your photos. However, putting on an outfit that goes against the seasonal temperature, can easily become ruined by dirt is an easy way to turn a fun experience into a burden. There’s no need to suffer for this shoot, so be sure to find a way to blend style and comfort.
Hire Experts for Hair and Makeup
Bringing a professional photographer on board is an easy decision for your shoot. To make the process even smoother, consider going a step farther and hiring experts for hair and makeup. When you’ve got people with experience handling your look, there are fewer items on your to-do list to stress over before the day arrives. Plus, this can be a fun way to test out options for your wedding hair and makeup needs. If you love the abilities of the people you use, then you can book them right away.
Have Fun With the Experience
There are going to be plenty of moments where you feel overwhelmed as you plan the details of your big day. The engagement shoot, on the other hand, is your chance to just relax and have some fun. There’s no pressure, only a chance to capture exactly how happy you are about this milestone moment. Many couples take things to the next level by turning the shoot into an entire day’s experience. Go out for breakfast together, take care of the shoot, then finish the night with a concert, fancy dinner, or drinks at a favorite bar.
Keep the Poses Simple
Engagement photos are formulaic for a reason. There’s no need to think too far outside of the box with this task, as it really is mainly to serve as a way of informing family and friends about the decision. This means that you’ll have an easier time by keeping your poses simple. If you ever feel stuck on what to do in a shot and your photographer isn’t doing the best job at instructing you, a quick kiss can make for the perfect content. Nothing creates a romantic vibe like a smooch!
Make a Engagement Checklist
Though there won’t be as many details to keep in mind as there will be for your wedding, a checklist can be a huge help when you’re planning out your photoshoot. From details about the shooting location to the time you need to meet your makeup team, having a list of all the things that need to be accomplished will make the entire experience less stressful.
An engagement shoot is a wonderful way to get excited about your choice to tie the knot. As long as you give yourself a little time to prep in advance, you’ll be able to enjoy every minute of this fun task.
Many people envision their wedding day as something magical with clear ideas of what the day will entail, including those who will support them at the altar. Members of the wedding party assume responsibility for helping a couple prepare for their nuptials. They should understand they’ll be helping you kick off this new phase in life. You’ll be asking a lot of these people, so remember these “facts” about those in your wedding party.
The Wedding Party is Not Your Wallet or Purse
It’s fairly common for bridesmaids and groomsmen to be responsible for paying for their attire, whether they’re renting or buying. A best man or maid of honor may have additional duties such as planning a stag and doe party or other prenuptial festivities. Be thoughtful about what the people in your wedding party are spending to participate. Your marriage ceremony shouldn’t be a financial burden to you and your future spouse. It definitely shouldn’t be one to those in your wedding party!
They’re Not Your Servant or Secretary
Your nearest and dearest friends and family members often have good ideas and wisdom, making them excellent resources when planning nuptials. Don’t take advantage of their willingness to help. It’s important to be reasonable when expecting others to accommodate your schedule. They have lives of their own. Inviting them to help you find an outfit or sample cakes is cool. Expecting them to be at your beck and call is not.
They’re Not Mind Readers
You might have a sibling or best friend that knows you really well. While they might have a strong sense of your likes and dislikes, you shouldn’t assume they can read your mind. Clear and constant communication is important when preparing for a marriage ceremony. If you want your bridesmaids or groomsmen to do or not do certain things, say so.
They’re Not Your Dolls
Many Canadian couples like the idea of a themed marriage ceremony and reception. A themed event may call for a particular look for your wedding party, especially when it comes to hair, makeup, and apparel. Remember your loved ones aren’t dolls where you can dramatically change their appearance based on your whims. Asking someone to wear a long-sleeved top to cover up tattoos is one thing. Expecting someone to change their hair color is another. It’s unreasonable to expect others to alter the way they look to please you.
They’re Not Your Subjects
Your nuptials are about you and your spouse. While your groomsmen or bridesmaids want you to be happy, you can’t force them to do things they don’t want to do. For example, if you have a loved one that doesn’t drink, don’t expect them to enjoy a glass of champagne just because it’s time to toast. While the day is one of the most important ones in your life, that doesn’t give you the right to bark orders to those in your wedding party. Respect your bridesmaids and groomsmen.
They’re Not Your Fixers
Despite the best-laid plans, something can go wrong, especially when you’re tying the knot. If a photographer fails to show up, don’t expect the people in your wedding party to “save the day” with a smartphone camera or something equally ridiculous. Mistakes are unfortunate, but you can’t expect your circle to fix everything that doesn’t go according to plan.
Having people who love you enough to be in your wedding party is a blessing. Not everyone has that kind of support, so be grateful for those who can handle reasonable duties as a bridesmaid or a groomsman. Making irrational or unrealistic demands of those around you can turn what should be a dream into a nightmare for loved ones.
Guests who don’t RSVP are the bane of hosts of all kinds of parties, not just wedding receptions. Some experts estimate that up to 20% of wedding guests will RSVP no, while another 60% will RSVP yes. That leaves 20% who won’t respond at all. The reason a guest doesn’t respond isn’t important. Dealing with those non-responders is. Expect to have to call some people on your guest list to find out whether they’re attending or not. Have a plan to minimize your frustration.
Include a Grace Period
Your caterer needs a head count by a certain date. Move your RSVP deadline up about two weeks from that day. This gives you some time to track down those guests who didn’t RSVP. Put some time in your own schedule to handle the situation. You know you’re going to need to deal with non-responsive guests. Planning for it can give you breathing room.
Send Contact Reminders
About a week before the RSVP deadline, send out a reminder by email or text. This gives those folks with good intentions a chance to respond. You should get a few more responses before the deadline. It’s easy to lose track of time and forget to RSVP. Make it as easy as possible to RSVP, either through your wedding website or by responding to the reminder.
Take a Breath
As the deadline gets closer, it’s easy to feel frustrated. Weddings are serious business. Before you start pestering non-responsive guests, shake off those feelings of irritation. Yes, you’re busy and shouldn’t have to track down those guests to get the answers you need. However, your wedding day doesn’t need to be clouded by resentment by you or your guests. Your guests may have busy lives that don’t revolve around your wedding. You don’t know what they’re dealing with. Take a breath and relax.
Make Contact
You and your partner know your guests who haven’t responded. Decide how to make contact with each person on the list. Get help from your wedding party if your list is long. Start by connecting with those who have not responded. If your previous text or email went unanswered, find another way to reach out. Leave a voicemail or meet in person. This is not the time to use a group email or text. Reach out to each guest individually. Emphasize that you’re trying to get a head count for the venue or caterer.
Be Gracious
Instead of yelling at your guests who haven’t responded, take another approach. Guests who don’t respond may be dealing with more than you realize or are embarrassed for not sending in their RSVP. Start by asking if they received your invitation. If they haven’t received it, they don’t even know about the deadline. You want to be able to deal with that situation without making them feel bad.
If they have received the invitation, gently remind them of the RSVP deadline and ask about their intentions. If someone is hesitant, give them a way to bow out. There’s no need to make them feel any worse. You just need a response.
If you have to leave a voicemail, give them another 48 hours to respond. You can say that if you don’t hear from them, you’ll assume they aren’t coming. If you simply can’t get a hold of someone, it’s a pretty good assumption that they won’t attend. Should they respond later, you may just have to be firm in telling them that you won’t have food for them. Maybe they can still attend, depending on the headcount for the venue. Be prepared to handle those situations on an individual basis. Don’t stress too much over non-responsive guests.
For Canadian couples who have decided to tie the knot, the marriage ceremony is one of the most important life events. It requires careful consideration, planning, and preparation, from the day of engagement all the way to the end of the reception. Many couples also anticipate kicking off this new phase of life with a honeymoon. Similar to your wedding, your honeymoon also requires careful planning. You want to start your marriage off on a high note. Here are six things you should not do on your special getaway.
1. Going Without a Plan
Whether you envision lying on a beach somewhere in the sun or taking in the bright lights of a destination city, you need to have a plan. What do you hope to accomplish on your honeymoon? This vacation is a celebration of your union, so it’s important to schedule memorable and romantic activities to make the trip special. Planning your itinerary to the letter is going too far in the other direction, but it’s important to make time for the essential things.
2. Not Having a Budget
One of the worst experiences is going on a trip and learning that you don’t have enough money to do the things you want to do. Discovering you’ve under-budgeted for your honeymoon is quite the drag. Instead of enjoying the time together, you’ll be preoccupied with how much things cost. You shouldn’t blow your finances on a single vacation, so it’s important to choose an experience that’s appropriate for your planned budget. If you can’t afford to splurge now, enjoy a modest vacation and save your funds for a future anniversary.
3. Ignoring Rules, Regulations, and Advisories
Can you imagine arriving at a coastal destination in the middle of a hurricane? It’s unwise to book a trip without researching information about the place. There could be civil unrest that makes the desired destination an unsafe place to travel. Some countries require visitors to get certain vaccines or meet other requirements before traveling. Ignorance is not bliss when it comes to planning a vacation. Nothing ruins a honeymoon like being unable to travel.
4. OverpackingOn A Honeymoon
The last thing you or your spouse will want to do is struggle with too much luggage or bags that are stuffed with things you don’t need. Think carefully about your destination. Will you really need an evening outfit every night? Maybe you can do laundry at the resort or vacation home you’ll be staying at. What if you want to bring back souvenirs? There are weight restrictions for luggage on most airlines. Limit your bags to the essentials. Your body will appreciate it.
5. Oversharing Your Honeymoon on Social Media
Some things have to be seen (and shared) to be believed. That breathtaking sunset or main course at a Michelin star restaurant may be Instagram-worthy, but don’t spend all your time sharing every minute of your trip. Remember to be in the moment with your new spouse. You don’t want to miss what’s happening in front of you and between you because you’re posting updates to friends and followers.
6. Not Respecting the Locals and Their Culture
Wherever you go, remember to respect the locals and their customs. Even in locations that thrive on tourism, be mindful of how your actions can inadvertently affect others. What might be acceptable at home in Canada may not be so in other countries. Know before you go.
Your wedding will be one of life’s most important events. A honeymoon that’s every bit as magical as your marriage ceremony is the perfect start to life with the one you love. Keep these tips in mind as you make your plans.
As do many other countries, Canada has its fair share of cultural traditions when it comes to various aspects of living. Weddings are no exception in the Great White North. Canadian wedding traditions pull from the country’s English and French roots, resulting in fun, quirky ideas for your nuptials. From pre-ceremony hijinks to the marriage service and reception, let’s explore these traditions that are unique to Canada. You may be inspired to incorporate some of these into your own celebration.
Before the Wedding
When a couple decides to get married, the events often start before the special day. From engagement parties to bridal showers, it’s very common for the festivities to be held well in advance. Check out the following pre-ceremony Canadian customs:
Trousseau Tea: This older tradition is named for a term that refers to either a dowry, a bride’s outfit or a chest used to collect clothing for young single women in anticipation of marriage. The mother of the bride hosts a party or tea for casual acquaintances and friends who might not be otherwise invited to the marriage ceremony. The bride’s trousseau was put on display, while pastries, confections and other sweet treats were served. This very old practice is mostly obsolete but may be a great idea for the couple with a lot of friends.
Pre-Wedding Fundraiser for the Couple: This pre-celebration social is an opportunity for close friends and family to raise money to support an engaged couple. Names for this event vary across Canada, but some common terms include stag and doe, buck and doe, shag or wedding social. Invitations to this party are often extended to friends who might not be invited to the main event. Guests purchase entry tickets and pay small amounts of money to play games. Proceeds are usually donated to the couple to either pay for the wedding, honeymoon or other costs associated with starting life together.
On the Day Of Wedding
Most Canadian ceremonies will feature a processional involving the couple and members of the bridal party, but consider a procession of the couple and others to the wedding venue. A distinctively Quebecois tradition involves the groom and his loved ones meeting the bride at her residence. The couple then proceeds to the venue with the bride’s parents in a motorcade, wherein some cars are decorated for the wedding. On the way to the church, participants will honk their horns and tell passersby about the nuptials. These bystanders will shout good wishes in response. At the end of the parade, everyone enters the church or venue together.
At the “Afterparty”
Another popular French-Canadian custom takes place at the reception. Unmarried siblings of the bride and groom will perform a silly dance to a special song while wearing loud, colorful and sometimes ugly socks. Reception attendees respond by tossing money to be collected and donated to the newly married couple as a collective gift for starting their life together. Would-be dancers are encouraged to be as silly as possible. In parts of Manitoba, dancing trios perform a Ukrainian dance called the “butterfly” at the reception.
In lieu of presents, some receptions request that guests bring money to donate to the newlyweds. A succinct, discreet way of doing this is by stating “presentation only” on the wedding invitation. While long receptions aren’t strictly Canadian, many celebrations extend well into the early morning of the next day, long after the wedded couple has left the building.
Weddings are a great time to incorporate many customs and cultural elements. For engaged partners in Canada, there are old and current traditions that are worth considering for incorporation into the festivities. From pre- to post-wedding events, ponder these Canadian customs for a fun and memorable way to kick off this new phase of life.
Wedding photos last a lifetime, so most brides and grooms spend a lot of time choosing the right photographer, which is half the battle to make sure you capture your special day on film. The other part is how you look. Not everyone is comfortable in front of the camera, even though many people have grown up in the age of selfies. Here are some tips for getting good wedding photos.
Get Comfortable With Your Photographer
An engagement shoot can help you get to know your wedding photographer and be more comfortable in front of the camera. When you go back through the photos to choose which ones to use, look with a critical eye to see what you didn’t like and which pictures you thought turned out well. Maybe even talk to the photographer about what cues worked better for you and your significant other. Just don’t stop there.
Practice in Front of the Camera
One afternoon with the photographer isn’t going to be enough to get yourself ready for the wedding day photography. Getting the perfect shot doesn’t happen naturally, so you may want to practice with your future spouse and friends and family. Get your wedding party to take candid photos while you’re planning and shopping for the wedding. This can help you become accustomed to the camera so you can act more spontaneously. As you look through these photos, you can learn which side is your best side. Don’t get too caught up in certain poses. You want your wedding photos to be authentic and real.
Angle Your Body
Standing up straight and staring at the camera can make you look rigid and flat. Most experts recommend turning your body 45 degrees to your partner. This creates a flattering angle that is more intimate than just standing next to each other. Your full body isn’t on display, which can help minimize any discomfort in showing your full width.
Check Your Posture
Standing up straight with your shoulders back and chest forward isn’t always a natural position, but it can give you much more confidence when you have good posture. Good posture flatters your frame, so you immediately look much better in photos. Learn to take a deep breath before the photo and release it to relax your body so you don’t look too stiff. Bending one knee while posing is another trick to make you look more relaxed and less stiff in photos.
Learn Where To Put Your Arms
Most people hold their arms very close to their torso in photos. Lifting your arms away from your body can give you a better look in photos. Your shoulders won’t seem as broad when you do this. It can also make your arms appear smaller. Watch how your elbows point. When they point outwards, it can make photos seem stiff. Practice moving your arms while taking photos to have more confidence in what you’re doing.
Ask Your Wedding Party To Practice With You
The bride and groom aren’t the only ones in the wedding photos. If your parents don’t like taking pictures, you’ve got time to help them feel more confident in the photos by working with them. Your flower girl and ring bearer may also need some practice listening to the photographer and learning to keep their eyes open during photos. These practice photos can be memories of their own as you take pictures of your everyday routine leading up to the wedding.
Relax and let your photographer capture the special moments that occur naturally without feeling awkward in front of the camera, and get the wedding photos you’ll be delighted to put on display for years to come.
When a close friend or family member decides to get married, there’s a good chance you may be asked to be in their wedding as a bridesmaid or a groomsman. If it’s a best friend or a close sibling getting hitched, you may be asked to stand next to them as a maid of honor or a best man. In either situation, this is an important responsibility. Members of a bridal or wedding party are expected to contribute time, treasure and talents to the nuptials of a happy couple, and there are some things you should know before committing.
Opting Out Of A Wedding
Before going further, you should understand that being in a wedding party will likely put significant demands on your time and funds, especially as the big day rolls around. It’s easy to get caught up in the moment and say yes. However, you should know that you can always say no, and you should do so if you have any doubts about being able to fulfill the role, especially as a maid of honor or best man. If you need time to consider and more details about what is expected of you, it’s best to say something now and not later.
Planning Events
As a bridesmaid or groomsman, you’re expected to be part of a support system for the couple to be wed. This can mean everything from helping to plan events such as a bachelor or bachelorette party to coordinating actual details of the big day. As a part of the bridal party, you’re there to attend to the couple’s needs, which can include helping them stay calm and collected. One classic Canadian event that you may be expected to help organize and plan is a stag and doe party, which serves as a fundraiser to pay for costs associated with the new couple’s life together, including expenses from the ceremony and honeymoon.
Spending Money
Members of a wedding party are often expected to contribute personal funds to help cover various costs. Perhaps the most common expenses arise from wedding fashions. Bridesmaids are often expected to pay for their dresses according to the bride’s preferences. Similarly, groomsmen are usually responsible for renting a tuxedo or purchasing clothes and accessories for the big day. There are a number of expenses that you should take into account if you commit to participating in the ceremony:
Attire, including accessories and shoes
Gifts for the couple at various events
Costs for bachelor/bachelorette events, stag and doe parties, engagement gatherings, bridal showers, etc.
Travel expenses or fees for a destination or remote celebration
You shouldn’t go into debt or experience financial strain from being in the wedding party, so it’s important to ask questions up front before committing.
Helping the Couple Look Their Best
A bride or a groom will look to members of the bridal party to help them get suited and booted for the ceremony. This may include something as simple as helping someone fasten buttons or zippers that are hard to reach or helping tie a bow tie. Get familiar with that YouTube tutorial as soon as possible! Do you know your way around a makeup palette or a set of clippers? The happy couple may have need of special skills that you possess when it comes to putting the finishing touches on their appearance. Again, expectations and requests should be made known well in advance.
Many people consider it an honor to be asked to serve in a wedding, especially as a member of the bridal party. Recognize that you have an important role to fulfill, and if you’re not prepared to make the commitment required, say something right away. The last thing you want to do is leave a loved one hanging and add to the stress of the special day.
Canada has many beautiful locations for a wedding, from historic churches to national parks. If you’re looking for a place to celebrate your wedding while remembering Canada’s heritage, here are a few places you may want to look into.
Métis Crossing As a Wedding Site
The Métis Crossing Cultural Centre in Alberta loves to celebrate family and love. There’s no requirement to be Métis. You can hold your wedding and stay at the lodge, which overlooks the North Saskatchewan River. Guests can enjoy some of the cultural experiences to better understand the Métis. The Cultural Gathering Centre has rustic beams and natural light, so it needs minimal decorations.
Quaaout Lodge & Spa at Talking Rock Golf Resort
The Quaaout Lodge is located in Chase, British Columbia. It sits beside Little Shuswap Lake, so you can have a lakeside wedding. Your guests will enjoy the hospitality of the Little Shuswap Lake Band, which owns the lodge. The resort is open all year long, with appropriate activities for all seasons. The environment is kept in pristine condition, and it’s considered a photographer’s delight. Your wedding pictures will be amazing.
Cape Breton Highlands National Park As a Wedding Site
This national park in Nova Scotia offers two different backdrops, the sea and the mountains. You’ll need a Nova Scotia marriage license, but the scenery will make up for any bureaucratic inconvenience. The park features several locations that are suitable for ceremonies. Trout Brook has a small picnic shelter and a wood stove. It’s the perfect setting for an intimate wedding. Have your wedding party hike up the Skyline Trail to a cliff that overlooks the Gulf of St. Lawrence. You may even have some wildlife join you as you say your vows.
Batoche National Historic Wedding Site
Located in Saskatchewan, Batoche is about an hour north of Saskatoon. The site is only open from May to October for visitors, but it’s a lovely location with heritage buildings that are the perfect place for a simple wedding in a romantic place surrounded by history and nature. Guests can enjoy the museum before the wedding to learn more about the Métis and the First Nations.
Fort Malden National Historic Site
Get a glimpse into what life was like in the 19th century at this historical site along the banks of the Detroit River in Ontario. Visitor services are offered May to October. The site welcomes weddings and has many facilities that can be used to host an unforgettable wedding. Your guests will have plenty of places to explore while visiting the area. Amherstburg is a great town with wineries, restaurants and entertainment to keep everyone from getting bored.
Manoir-Papineau National Historic Site
Louis-Joseph Papineau was a historical figure who failed in his rebellion but ultimately led Canada to a responsible government. This beautiful manor house is one of the sites that remembers his legacy. It features many rooms and outbuildings suitable for weddings. The gardens and lawns are lovely places for pictures. Papineau was one of the original Francophone patriots.
The Forks National Historic Site
This site is a National Historic Site of Canada because it has been witness to many events in Canada’s history. Its geographical location at the juncture of the Red and Assiniboine Rivers make it a beautiful location to host a wedding. The amphitheatre can hold up to 120 chairs, but there are other spaces in the nine-acre park.
These locations bring history and nature to your wedding, making it a special celebration for you and your guests. Make sure to check with the facility’s management about wedding guidelines. Unfortunately, Parks Canada, which runs many of these venues, does not allow confetti or rose petals to be thrown at the ceremony. You may have to give up some of your traditions to get heritage.
