Many people would describe marriage as one of life’s greatest adventures, and weddings and receptions are symbolic of a great send-off. The reception in particular marks the start of this adventure with a party vibe. Usually a great party has music, and where there’s music, there’s generally dancing. Country recording artist John Michael Montgomery released his single “Life’s a Dance” in 1992, in which he remarked, “Life’s a dance, you learn as you go; sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow.” Appropriately enough, a couple’s first dance is a common tradition at the reception. Here are some things you should know.
Boogie Down
As with any marriage celebration, it’s entirely up to the spouses-to-be to decide what’s on the agenda. You may just want to have an open floor where anyone can cut a rug to the music if they choose. Don’t feel pressured to have an official first dance with your new spouse, especially if dancing isn’t something either of you love to do. That said, it’s also okay to acknowledge that your union is a dance that can be symbolized with a first routine.
Put Together a Plan
You and your partner may be naturals on the floor, and if both of you are fine with rocking out to the beat, pick your favorite jam and let loose. Or you can always go for something slower and more romantic. Whatever you decide to do, having a plan can help reduce your stress on the big day. It’s important to do something that is comfortable for both of you. A first dance doesn’t have to be picture-perfect, but it shouldn’t be an embarrassment either. You want it to be a part of your celebration that you both recall fondly.
Hire a Professional
Just as you would hire experienced professionals to take care of food, attire and music, you can also hire a wedding choreographer. If you want your first dance to be choreographed according to a style, go with a pro. This choreographer can put together a special routine based on your strengths and preferences. It’s crucial that you book early. This allows time for you and your partner to practice. Remember, practice makes perfect.
Work It Out
There are other ways to get into the groove with respect to your nuptials. The first dance isn’t the only tradition of its kind at the reception. Consider these other ideas:
- Dance with parents or in-laws: Some couples opt to dance with their parents or in-laws, symbolic of a newlywed joining the family and getting “another” set of parents.
- Anniversary dance: This is a special dance that acknowledges married couples who’ve been together for a certain length of time.
- Wedding party routine: It might be fun for you and the people in your wedding party to do a specially choreographed routine.
You have many options, but you’ll need to gauge the comfort level and ability of participants. Factor in ease of movement when making choices for wedding attire, especially a bridal gown or suit. Sometimes the most fashionable clothes aren’t conducive to shaking a tail feather.
Dance the Night Away
If a party vibe is what you want for the reception, be sure to set that mood with your choices. Between your wedding planner, the venue, the décor and the music, attendees should feel encouraged to move. Make sure there’s ample space for individual and partner dancing. Line dancing can inspire the biggest wallflowers to hit the floor, so let your DJ or band know to include a couple of these songs on the playlist.
You have many options for making dance a part of your special day. From a choreographed first routine to party anthems that bring everyone to their feet, dancing is a celebration of love and the life ahead. Figure out what you and your partner want to do and plan accordingly.