Being a Supportive Groom

From the time most girls are little, they start to plan the wedding of their dreams. It can seem as if the groom’s only job is to wait at the altar for the bride to show up. The wedding planning may be the bride’s venue, but as a groom, you can certainly get involved. This celebration commemorates the love you have for each other.

A Supportive Groom

Instead of letting one person take care of everything, both of you should be actively engaged in the planning. Here are some tips to help a groom be supportive and to have a say in what should be the most memorable day of your life.

1. Have opinions. Even though the details may seem minute to you, it’s important for the bride to see that you are engaged with the process. Be diplomatic when you really aren’t sure what the difference is.
2. Take care of your relationship through this time. You may be required to go through pre-marital counseling. Use that time as a stepping stone to build a better partnership.
3. Register for gifts with your bride. Use the time to learn more about her tastes and style instead of looking at it as a long shopping trip.
4. Help with the research of venues, caterers, or other vendors. Offer to help look for photographers or rental companies for the tuxes. Talk to friends or family members who have recently gotten married and ask them to share advice about their experience.
5. Go to the meetings with the vendors when you can. Not only will you share the time with your bride, but you also help take the pressure off her during planning.
6. Deal with your family during the planning and wedding. This may mean that you have to stand up to your mom when she inserts herself into the mix. Don’t expect your bride to mediate with your parents or siblings over wedding details. Work it out together, then make the decision known to everyone.
7. Be the stress relief. Take time out of your schedule to make sure you have dates with your bride that aren’t about the wedding. Make sure she has days to relax with her friends to help keep her sane. The closer the wedding gets, the more stressed she may feel. Being the helpmate before you ever get married will bring you closer together.
8. Don’t shirk on your responsibilities to your groomsmen. Pick out the gifts for the guys yourself. Schedule fitting times to meet with the guys, and stay on top of your own planning. If you have friends who may get out of line during the party and reception, talk to them beforehand and have a plan to deal with it.
9. Be appreciative. Thank the people who have been helpful in making the wedding happen. Help write thank-you notes for gifts that arrive.
10. Plan the honeymoon. Even though you may enjoy surprising your bride, don’t wait until the last minute to tell her where you’re going. Remember that the wedding night may not be all you expect. You both may be exhausted after the ceremony and reception, so don’t have so many expectations that it turns a positive day into a disappointing night.

Help Manage the Stress Instead of Adding to It

Every bride wants the perfect day for a wedding. You may have to be the voice of reason that reminds her that when something doesn’t go as planned, it’s okay. However, you can also do what you can to make sure things do go right. Help her check in with the vendors and wedding planner on the days before the ceremony. Ask her what you can do to help every step along the way so that you both get to the altar with less stress.